my word of the year 2019



In years past I have seen people talk about their “word of the year”, and I was always so interested in what they had chosen. I’ve never really been one to choose a word or honestly make any big goals but after the craziness of 2018, I was compelled to sit down, reflect, and plan out a better 2019.

social squares by shay cochrane
photo c/o Social Squares

While reflecting on 2018, these were a few things I learned about myself. The first is that I do NOT like the person I am when I’m overwhelmed. Nope. Not one bit. We had a baby, changed careers, moved cross-country, bought a house, had to set up that house, were busy raising three small boys, and then I thought it was a good idea to try and get my business started up in another state STAT. All of that combined caused me to want to jump ship in every single area of my life. My relationships were starting to grow cold, my boys were frustrated with me “always needing to work”, and I was starting to forget things. Yet my business was starting to take off in incredible strides! Was what I was losing worth the gain in my business?

The second thing I learned is that time goes incredibly fast – do I want to be busy with work, or do I want to be busy with my family and friends? I do believe that you don’t need to sacrifice either, but I was really struggling to find balance. If you were to ask me 10 years ago what I wanted to be when I grew up, it was a mom. I have never wanted anything more than what I have now. So why was I jeopardizing that?

And third, I truly love capturing mothers in different stages of life. It has brought me so much joy and I want to keep this area of my life joyful. If I’m too busy, too overwhelmed, too stressed – the joy is gone. Photography has been such a wonderful creative outlet for me. I have met some of the most incredible people through this side hustle. I have captured newborns at just days old, families that were growing and growing, and so many children at each big milestone. Just the best things! So I know that I need to just step back, take on a little less, and keep the excitement flowing!

My word for 2019 is “focus”. I want to keep my eyes, my focus, on what is most important to me. Those top three areas for me are my faith, my family, and my friends. If I can keep a healthy balance with those three things plus adding in my business, then everything will thrive! I am absolutely confident in that.

So what does that mean for ABP? I am just taking on less. I am definitely not stepping away from the camera! I am choosing to take on less clients, less sessions, and less projects so that I can give my full attention to each of you. Instead of doing about 5-8 sessions a month, I am going to try to stay in the 1-3 sessions per month. Obviously some months may be a little more, some may be a little less. In May I will be traveling back to the DC area to do about 4-6 mini sessions so that month will seem a bit more crazy. All in all, I’m just trying to find a good balance this year.

Can I encourage you to reflect on your 2018 and come up with a word for your 2019? If you do, can you leave a comment below with what word you’ve chosen? I love hearing from you all!!

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